I’m in day four of my blog and already I’m getting fan mail! OK, more like fan texts. Fine. One was from my family and consisted of my sister asking me to “please define what financially abundant is to me” followed by my dad’s response of “I think it’s anything above zero.” And then lots of 😂 Emojis and hahahas. Don’t you love family? Little did you guys know I’d write about anything and everything in this so MAYBE you wanna lay off on the Alissa bashing? Hahaha 😂😂😂😂 JK, love you both and make fun of me as much as you want as long as you’re still reading. I’m here to make you all laugh at my expense! Yes, financially abundant to me is a couple thousand in the bank, zero debt, and no anxiety about how I’m going to pay this month’s rent… But this is a whole lot less embarrassing than having to sneak food for dinner out of the employee cafeteria so I’m OK with it. The OTHER piece of fan mail was actually from a co-worker from France who said I was dead on with my comment about Parisians thinking us Americans and our date nights are silly. So maybe I do know what I’m talking about once in awhile. Hurrah for American stupidity!
Anyway, today’s centering thought is “Abundance surrounds me.” Which I thought very fitting because I work in a five star hotel serving rich people who think it’s totally cool to spend $45 on a poke bowl I could get for $9.99 at Whole Foods. So abundance LITERALLY surrounds me. But today’s meditation focuses on a limiting belief that I think a lot of us might share. We sometimes believe there’s only so much to go around. So we’re driven to compete and operate from a sense of deprivation. There seems to be an imaginary line drawn between the “haves” and the “have-nots” and the “haves” hold all the invitations to the club. Hell, even I categorize these people as different than me. THEY’RE the ones with riches over the moon, I’m openly celebrating not having to worry how I’ll pay rent!
But Deepak and Oprah instead encourage us to embrace the belief that the universe holds unlimited abundance and generosity for US ALL. It’s never gonna run out. God’s not holding some magic list separating us into naughty and nice like Santa Claus at Christmas. Like, “Samantha gets a million dollars but that’s the last of it. Give that Alissa person coal because that’s all she deserves.” No! This belief in deep lack in the world, that there’s only so much to go around, needs to GO. In the words of a 20-something millennial, “BYEEEEEE!” When we see other’s success as a threat we create separation and end up pulling ourselves out of the natural flow that is intended for us.
So how do we break our pattern of cynicism, competition, and jealousy? Appreciate what you HAVE NOW. I know, being grateful for having a bed may not seem as exciting as being greatful for having a bed on your own yacht, BUT changing your focus to gratitude will attract more great things to you, or at the very least make you happier to be alive. (And really isn’t that the point anyway? I promise you, I see multi-millionaires on the daily who are MISERABLE. Money truly does not buy happiness.)
First things first. Start a gratitude list. I actually found a notebook at Marshall’s for this very thing. (See photo below.) Or grab a plain old notebook at CVS. I do think it’s important to actually write it down, though, not just recite it out loud. Now look around. Things to be grateful for are everywhere. It can be at the grocery store where there’s a 2-for-1 special on your favorite cookies. It can be that your family is awesome enough to tease you about your blog (😂😂😂). It can be that you saw a really nice sunset. Or that you’re lucky enough to have air conditioning when it’s 100 frickin degrees out like it is in LA right now. Write down 10 new things you’re grateful for either first thing in the morning or right before you go to sleep. Do this for at least a week straight and then please share your results with me! Did you feel happier? More energetic? At peace? I really do think this exercise works if you are consistent. But I get it, I’m lazy sometimes, too. The last time I wrote in my gratitude journal was probably three months ago. Which is part of the reason I’m writing this blog, to keep myself accountable! So message me your gratitude lists to keep yourself accountable as well.
And remember, even though we may not have million dollar watches or the latest Louboutins, we DO have a lot of pretty awesome things. Like friends who love us for more than the fact that we pick up the drinks tab (which at $21 a drink at the hotel I work at is A LOT.) But at the same time maybe let go of a little of that rich people judgement (which I assure you will be a challenge for me) and embrace a greater kinship with EVERYONE. Check that ego at the door and move into the land of infinite abundance.
And so it is.